big decisions


Don’t you love that feeling when you’ve just made a big decision?

When you know it’s the right one.

The relief. The peace. The “everything’s gonna be ok” satisfaction in your gut.

And the longer you’ve been agonising over a decision the better that feeling is. And you realise how much of the negative thoughts / feelings you’ve had were related to your indecision. And suddenly they’re gone. Bliss.

It feels good.

But then the doubts inevitably come. Down the line, whether it’s days, months or years, you’ll wonder if you made the right decision. It won’t feel so right, and sometimes it will hurt.

What do you do then? Well it’s at that point that you need to remember how you felt, and what you said, at the moment of decision. When the marriage gets hard, you remind yourself that you said “in sickness and in health”. When the kids just won’t listen you remind yourself that you looked at them in those first moments and promised to love them no matter what. When you’ve lost sight of what God is doing in your life, remind yourself that you decided to follow Jesus, wherever that took you.

When we make these big decisions, we often have no idea what we’re letting ourselves in for. By good design I reckon. If we knew we’d some day doubt we have what it takes to finish we’d be less brave, less courageous in our dreams, in what we decide to take on and commit to.

So. Next time you’re about to make a big decision, take note of how you feel, how excited and positive you are – you’ll probably need to come back to it one day.

And next time you’re discouraged by something not going as well as you’d hoped in the beginning, take yourself back to the beginning. Read your notes (literal or metaphorical), and be encouraged by that version of you. You might have moved on a bit, and the dream might need adapting, but it’s still you. You still have it in you.

Whatever you do, don’t shrink your dreams down to your (perceived) capabilities.

“Always aim for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars”.     W. Clement Stone

About bethanywheeler

I'm Bethany, a thirtysomething wife and mum. I love my family, my friends and my church, and I'm passionate about being part of them becoming all they were created to be. I'm a talker. Hopefully I listen in equal measure. I love a good debate about real stuff, but only if it results in a list of actions!
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