All trees are different, and some are designed to lose their leaves when it’s windy, some aren’t.
All pretty simple. That’s just the way it is. So why do we take such a different view of our own species? We’re all different, and we all weather storms differently. Some people seem to be able to put up with things going on all around them, busyness, stress, trauma, etc. without breaking down, when some days it feels like all I need is a little boy with swollen tonsils to tip me over the edge!
Is one tree better than another because it doesn’t lose it’s leaves? In the same way, there’s no use comparing ourselves to others – “why can’t I cope” is a tempting but futile question.
My life has been super busy this week. There’s a lot going on. And I kind of went into panic mode. When my mum is really snowed under, she does more – if disaster strikes, you’ll find my mum baking bread! I tried to do that this week, decided to make a load of soup for lunch I’m having with friends, so had to somehow fit that in too. But Mr Wheeler put a stop to that, because he knows that’s too much for me. I can’t deal with an overloaded schedule the way my mum can.
Why do I try?
We need to be free to be ourselves. If you need to take a breather, take one. Don’t worry if the person next to you doesn’t have to. Let them go ahead. chances are, with a different type of storm they may well struggle and you’ll be the one who keeps things going.
And we need to not put so much pressure on ourselves. Sure we can train to increase capacity, etc. And over the years we’ll probably weather the storms better, with less fallout. But for now, in this storm – just find that shelter and hunker down in there for a while while it passes.